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Beside the religion becomes the delimiter, losing of mother’s role as the keeper of tradition can also eliminate the traditions for Chinese people like me.

After our mother passed away, tradition especially Lunar Year like entering the ravine. Each of us finding the applications. The mostly of good habits were inherited our mother towards Sincia we are not being able to apply it in our little family.

Only the older sister who is still trying to guard it with all challenge. May be because she was a Buddhist and we follow religion from the West. From all of us I am the most dried in the tradition in the context of the people who most understand the importance of tradition but not able to preserve it.

The issues facing of each son is different. For the older brother of barrier is his religion, because he is a priest. As I recall the many traditions that taught our mother is not related to religion but associated life skill.

My case is different. Some of hard time had gone away and I am trying to keep balance but with the options I took now that it provides sufficient challenges related to domestic affairs of my little family. Doing the tradition with some preparation Sincia although small also need fund and time while my concerns are not there. Added my status as a single parent, living simply with my son in Temanggung which far from extended family its often became an alibi to me to be not joined celebrations Sincia.

A few days before Sincia, I seriously rebuked by my son, Oracle. He asked what we would do at Sincia while he adopt the Javanese culture much. He proposed several ideas such as going to Jakarta to celebrates Chinese New Year with my family and asked me to cook something on the Sincia day.
Of all his request, none of which I fulfill. I’m really sad that have not prepared anything for Sincia. The problem comes the unconditional which I can not provide a celebration or of passion not comes.

There is nothing I cannot explain here about our condition in Temanggung but his questions really has made me depressed a couple days. He very understood the human needs of tradition. I was very focused in helping him cultivate the mind but which tradition has I inherited to coloring his life later? I am a mother!

In his blood flowing partly Chinese not Javanese. That’s what authenticity in himself that should grow firstly. Results of my reflection that next year Sincia or some other traditions will be my big agenda to improve it.

It should I wear my creative imagination decorates the house with red accessories, it should I wear my intelligence in cooking and serving special food for the Sincia day and start invite neighbors in dinner if I worry about the redundant food and it should I practice my skill to guard a fire from oven when making cookies Sincia. Isn’t all the cleverness and imagination that I get comes from the tradition of my mother and it should I inherit it to my son?

(Taking up hands on head)

I should have followed in the footsteps of my mother holding the tua se (cleaning house in large scale) a month before Sincia in order old goes out new comes in, It’s goal very simple and easily accepted…It should at ceh it (first day Sincia) my son waiting in front of my room with red clothes say Kiong Hie Fat Choi instantly opens the doors of my room like a piece of my childhood memories that I keep remember until whenever.

(Taking up hands on head)

Xin Nian Kuai Le. Wan Shi Ru Yi & Nian Nian You Yu
A Happy New Year. Hope All Problems Can Be Completed & Every Year Always Get Surplus.

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